The Positive Sandwich: The Art of Saying 'No'

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The holiday season often brings a surge of invitations and expectations. This can be a great time to connect with loved ones, but it can also highlight the importance of boundaries.

So how do you gracefully decline an invitation without feeling guilty or jeopardizing your relationships?

I recently encountered this myself. After a period of intense studying for my Nutrition Coach and CPR certifications (which I passed!), I found myself needing quiet downtime instead of attending a party on the evening after my exams.

This perfectly illustrates the value of saying 'No'!

Welcome to 'The Positive Sandwich'!

This communication technique helps you navigate tricky situations while prioritizing your well-being.

Here's how 'The Positive Sandwich Technique' it works:

Step 1. Express Gratitude

Thank the person for thinking of you. Be genuine and express your appreciation in your own way. If you're in person, make eye contact and smile.

Step 2. Decline Politely

Clearly state that you can't commit at this time. Avoid lengthy explanations.

Optionally, you can offer an alternative if you genuinely intend to follow through. For example, suggest another time to meet. However, only provide an alternative if you truly mean it.

Step 3. End on a Positive Note

Thank them again for their understanding. Don't worry about repetition – a positive ending always leaves a good impression.

Here's an example:

"Thank you for inviting me! I appreciate it, but I won't be able to make it this time. Thanks again for understanding."

Remember, saying 'No' is a form of self-care.

The tip for using 'The Positive Sandwich':

• Be kind, be short, be affirming, and be confident.

The Positive Sandwich Technique also works beautifully for a journaling activity!

"My Power Journal" daily page uses a powerful reflection prompt that builds on these principles:

1. What am I grateful for today?
2. What am I excited about?
3. What challenge may I encounter?
4. How will my best-self handle it?
5. I am... (Affirmation statement)

By taking time to reflect on these questions, you can generate a daily positive mindset, prepare for potential obstacles, and empower yourself to thrive through the day. 

Get "My Power Journal" HERE